Tuesday, August 24, 2010

Child's Experience of Spanking

This very valuable research clarifies an 'age-old' myth about what corporal punishment does to children!

When I am working with parents and this subject comes up, I always site Dr. Bruce Perry's brain research with his anecdotal description of what happens when a child is spanked.

Dr. Perry calls it a brain bath or in other words it's like being under water at a pool, you can hear people talking on the pool deck, but you cannot understand what they are saying. So if you, the parent, are trying to 'teach your child a lesson' by spanking them, literally they cannot learn with corporal punishment.

Because the minute a child feels that painful stimulus they release stress hormones, adrenaline and cortisol, bringing on the brain bath and the child in turn only wants to avoid the source of that pain (the parent) and or resent the parent who is administering the pain. This in turn confuses the child because the object of their great affection (attachment) is also someone to fear and someone whose touch they cannot trust.

This informational approach always seems to give parents an 'ah-ha' moment. More than not parents then say to me, "That is so logical, now please tell me what to do instead"...and this becomes a jumping off point for parent education. As you can see this is a subject near and dear to my heart as I have worked as a trainer for the CA Department of Child Abuse Prevention and Neglect for many years.
Thoughtfully submitted, Ann Corwin

Ann Corwin, Ph.D., M.Ed.

I, too, have worked in parent education since 1971 and welcome you to join one of the 11 classes being offered the next two months that will "tell you what to do instead." Two begin today. Marti

Wednesday, August 18, 2010

Eleven classes start this and next month!


I'm eager to share the things I've learned this summer and tools I believe will make life more wonderful - I have all of the new classes listed on my www.martimonroe.com calendar.

3 Positive Discipline (7 week classes)

4 Respectful Parents Respectful Kids (a book I believe is the attitude shift we need to be successful with children and, all people, for that matter!) (a book study with 3 sessions, starting August 24th & 26th)

When Communication Counts (there is still space available in this powerful 3 day class in Nonviolent Communication at the end of August)

For IdahoSTARS: Emotion Coaching, Caring for the Care Provider, and Strengthening Families classes are about to be scheduled for providers

2 hour Nonviolent Communication classes on the 2nd Sunday afternoon of each month.

SO look forward to seeing you soon and learning together!!! The books for the Respectful Parents Respectful Kids book study class are available at the front desk of each Boise Montessori school. They are free when you submit your registration form and payment for the classes starting next week. $15 for those who just want to read without the class.

Remember to check www.martimonroe.com for class details or call or email.

Some great quotes for a quick jump start!

Laugh at yourself and children will learn to laugh at their own mistakes. A role model is a very powerful thing.

-Gigi Taylor Schweikert from her book, Teacher Tips

"When the power of love overcomes the love of power, the world will know peace."

-Jim Hendrix

With joy,